A friend of mine fell in love with her high school boyfriend back in the day and they ended up getting married. They lived an amazing life, traveling together, buying a great house, having 2 beautiful, healthy children, 2 cars, the dog. They seemed to be living the American Dream that so many people always dream about. Every time a bunch of us would get together they would always be golding hands and seemed to be very in love. Her husband changed jobs and began traveling more often. He would tell his family he would phone them at a specific time and the time would come and go and he would call, but hours later. Things started changing for them. (I bet you know where this is going).
On one business trip, she found a babysitter and left the kids home and decided to surprise her husband by following him on his trip and planned on making the most of their night together. They lived in a suburb of Illinois and his trip had been in Chicago where he was staying overnight. She was excited about going and told me about her plan. In the back of my mind I was thinking that she should not go for fear of what she would find out. I always had an inkling in the back of my head about this guy. Although I really liked him as a person and thought they were great together when their life began changing, it showed. My opinion began changing as well. My friend stuck by her husband and always reassured us that they loved each other and his job was too stressful and thats why things changed.
Well she followed him to Chicago and figured she would do a bit of shopping until she figured he would be at the hotel and she would pop in on him. At about 6 pm that evening she went to his hotel and tapped on the door. She covered the peep hole that hotel room doors have on them so it would be a surprise and tapped again. He came to the door and asked who it was, to which she replied room service. Upon opening the door she noticed a look on his face that she would never forget. He did not know what to say and began stuttering. She knew something was terribly wrong and pushed open the door to find a half naked woman on his bed. She freaked out, not knowing what to do she ran out of the room and slammed the door.
My friend went back home with the plan to throw him out and toss his things out on the lawn before he got back. She cried all the way home as she drove the 3 hours not sure how she would get there trying to see through her tears. When she arrived she ran through the house without any direction. She called me and began blaming herself. If she was only more attentive to his needs, if she was a better wife, etc etc. I assured her it was not her fault and this was all about him.
Her husband was to be home the next day and never showed up, instead she received a letter stating that he was not happy and wanted to split. He had stopped her credit cards, took the money out of their bank account and would not return her calls. She was very distraught so I went to go stay with her for a week to figure things out with her. The first thing we needed to do was contact an attorney to see what her rights were. She had no money, no bank account, 2 kids and desperation. We discussed selling her house and getting something smaller that she could afford. Being that she had not worked since she had gotten married she really did not have much, her husband made sure of it. She moved her kids and herself into her mothers house on Long Island in NY. She got a job answering phones in a doctors office making $10 per hour. She needed to go back to school to learn a trade, but that would cost her more money which she did not have. She also did not want to be away from her kids for long periods of time having to work a full time corporate job or going to school. She felt the effects of her divorce would be a problem for the kids and she wanted to be around them to make sure they felt reassured and loved.
After the embers of this situation died down, I told her about making money with Arbonne. Her mother had a party at her house and I gave my friend 35% of the retail price of everything to get her on her feet. We did a few parties from the party her mother had originally, my friend was now making a few hundred extra dollars from every party. When she realized the potential of this business, she joined the business and is now making more money then she dreamed of.
Her ex-husband had kept his relationship somewhat with his children, seeing them once a month, as per his request. When he read an article on his wifes success, he tried to reach out to her to re-establish their relationship vowing that things would be different. My friend made it very clear (with words I will not share) that she was no way interested in his offer.
She has since met a wonderful man, her children love this guy. She has a trusting relationship with him, and her own bank account with her own money that she earned herself! She will never again be in the situation she had once been in. Her children are grown and have a wonderful relationship with her. Mt friend smiles all the time and has found the true meaning of happiness! There is life after divorce, and it may even be a better life!
